23 Thoughts On Turning 23

happy birthday, humor, aging, birthday humor, twenty-something, existential crisis

1.  Holy shit, I’m old.

2.  Well, not really.  But still.  I graduated high school five years ago.  Holy shit.

3.  I should probably get a wrinkle cream, right?  Start now, before it’s too late?  Good idea, me.

4.  Maybe I should take out my nose ring now.  Is 23 too old to have a nose ring?  …Or a giraffe onesie?  Or a t-shirt with a giant cat on it?

5.  Maybe I should get a boyfriend now.  Is 23 too old to be single still?  How many more years until I have to worry about fertility?

6.  I don’t want a boyfriend.

7.  Jennifer Lawrence is 24.  She has an Oscar (probably).  I’m 23… and I don’t have an Oscar.

8.  Shit.

9.  Is 23 too early to have a quarter life crisis?

10.  Is 23 too late to start acting classes so I can catch up to Jennifer Lawrence?  I wanna be BFFs with Bradley Cooper too.

11.  Bradley Cooper was on an episode of Sex in the City, right?

12.  They’re all in their thirties and still single on Sex in the City.  I’m fine.

13.  But really, what age does your fertility start to decrease?

14.  Maybe I should get another cat.

15.  Or make a real estate investment.  Or stocks?  Or get my own apartment.

16.  Whatever, the internet says it’s fine to be a wild and carefree twenty-something.  I’m definitely okay.

17.  Too bad the internet doesn’t say anything about being a twenty-something with a badly paid job and two other part time jobs on the side.  Who lives with her Mommy.  With a well-loved Netflix subscription.  That’s “wild and carefree,” right?

18.  Maybe I should Google “fertility declines”.

19.  Thank God 23 is old enough to buy wine.

20.  And adopt cats.

21. Maybe I should register with eHarmony.

22.  Or not.  Are there still birthday cupcakes left?

23.  I’ll be fine.

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How to Contact Your Representative

How to Contact Your Representative / www.CandidlyKelseyBlog.com

Hello, hi, howdy and welcome to my first official political post in which we discuss how to contact your representative. Regardless of what your political opinion is, it is very important to know how to contact your officials. Your voice doesn’t end with voting for your president and it’s important to stay in contact with your officials. But unfortunately, not everyone knows how to talk to them– or even who their representatives are. So let’s change that, huh?

Let’s just start by saying that this is a non-partisan post. I obviously have political opinions (follow me on Twitter and you know exactly what those are) but this post is not for that. The point of this post is to make sure each person is armed with the knowledge of how to stay in contact with their officials, regardless of their ideologies.

How to Contact Your Representative:

  1. Know your elected officials. Your senators and representatives are JUST as important as your president. This website is the official US Gov site on contacting your officials, but (in my opinion) isn’t as user friendly. WhoIsMyRepresentative.com can help you find who your representatives and senators are by searching via zip code or by state. It will also link you to their webpages and contact info.
  2. Learn their stance on issues that are important to you. The internet has tons of great resources to find out more about them and their voting record. VoteSmart.org and OnTheIssues.org are great sites to learn about their stance on important issues and how they’ve voted in the past.
  3. Write them a letter. They represent YOU. Let them know what issues are important to you. If you don’t agree with their record, you can tell them– but be respectful about it. They’re not likely to pay attention to a letter full of expletives. Explaining your points and why you feel that way is a much more valid argument than just telling them they’re wrong. Even if you do agree with their record, tell them, and tell them why. About.com has a great article on tips for writing a letter, and although this other template is about biology, it’s a great example of the format a general template for writing to your representatives. Just take out all the science stuff and replace it with what is specific to you.
  4. Stay updated on what is happening. Whatever happens in congress is public record, and is archived. The best places I found to read about the legislation in the senate on Senate.gov, and the House of Representatives on Clerk.House.gov. The websites aren’t super user-friendly, so take some time to explore them. Each bill has a name, so you can watch pieces of legislation as they are updated. You can follow specific pieces that are important to you and track their progress. And although the news covers them, you can also follow Executive Orders signed by Trump on WhiteHouse.gov and read them for yourself.
  5. Continue to voice your opinion. If something happens that you are happy about then write, email or call your representative’s office. If something happens that you don’t like, do the same. They are YOUR representative. And the only way they can represent you is if they know how you feel.

Bonus: Always, always, always fact-check yourself. Don’t blindly share things that you see online. There is such a thing as “fake news” and it’s unfortunately all over social media pages. A quick Google search to see if something is real will save you from spreading false info. It’ll also keep you from looking dumb, which is nice.

There are tons of other ways to stay updated with what is happening in our government, but this is what works for me.

If you have other ways you like to contact your congressman, or other ways to stay updated on what is happening in congress, please leave them in the comments for others to see. Let’s make it a little easier to make our voices heard.

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The BEST Drugstore Make-Up

Make up doesn't have to cost an arm and a leg. Check out the best of the best drugstore make-up, including foundation, highlighters, bronzer, mascara, setting spray and more. / www.CandidlyKelseyBlog.com

Who says good make-up has to be expensive? It doesn’t. You can slay without giving up eating or taking out a small loan. And if you’ve ever thought about getting into make-up but don’t know where to start NOW is the time to get into it. And I’ve got a round up of the best drugstore make-up just for you.

For the purpose of this list, these are all things that can be physically purchased at a store that carries what are considered “drugstore” brands: Walgreens, CVS, Rite Aid, Ulta, grocery stores, etc. If you’re looking for things with drugstore prices but can’t necessarily be purchased at a drugstore, stay tuned for my next post featuring affordable make-up.

Presented in order of putting them on ya face:

Primer: Maybelline Master Prime Blur + Smooth – $9.99

Foundation: L’Oreal Infallible Pro-Matte Foundation – $12.99

Dry skin kids, don’t fret at the word “matte.” I have dry skin and love this foundation. It stays all day, and doesn’t look cakey or weird on my dry skin. I recommend moisturizing, priming, then using this foundation with a very damp beauty blender. The moisturizing and the damp beauty blender make all the difference, I promise.

Concealer: Maybelline Fit Me Concealer – $4.99

Fit Me has been compared to the NARS Creamy Concealer. It’s got a great consistency and is a medium coverage. Plus, at the price, it’s great to get a few different colors for days when you want a super highlighted look vs. just a daily look.

Powder: Rimmel London Stay Matte Pressed Powder – $4.99

Bronzer/Contour: Physician’s Formula Murumuru Butter Bronzer – $14.99

Don’t freak out a the price tag, this bronzer is WORTH IT. It’s lasts forever, and the color is the perfect neutral undertone with a warm finish so you can use it for bronzing and for some light contouring. Plus it literally applies like butter. Skip the expensive latte for a few days to justify dropping the $15 dollars on this sucka, and you will not regret it. I have high-end bronzers, and still pick this one everyday. It’s the best of the best drugstore make-up.

Highlighter: Essence Pure Nude Highlighter – $4.49

It’s cult favorite for a reason: the most natural but gorgeous glow. To up the intensity, mist your brush with a setting spray before applying it to make it a little more “wet.” Much like the Butter Bronzer, I have many high end highlighters but use this one daily.

Blush: Makeup Revolution The Matte Blush – $5.00

Super pigmented and a ton of colors. Just make sure to use a light hand when applying.

Mascara: Maybelline Lash Sensational – $8.99

Eyeshadows:

The Maybelline Color Tattoos are cream shadows and they are almost literally tattoos. I used to work triple shifts between working at a gym and waitressing, and could put these on m eyes at 9am, and get home at 3am after a 6pm-2am waitress shift and my eyeshadow would still be flawless without a primer. These are bomb.com.

Eyeliners:

This eyeliner is comparable to Kat Von D’s Tattoo Liner in “Trooper.” Though this one is a felt tip and the KVD is a brush pen they apply very similarly. KVD may be a smidgen darker, but for the price difference of $16 bucks I’m fine with that.

Stays all day, including the waterline. This liner applies very easily, and also lasts forever.

Setting Spray: Maybelline FaceStudio Master Fix Wear Boosting Setting Spray – $12.99

Comparable to the Urban Decay All-Nighter setting spray, IMHO. They even have very similar ingredients lists. I use this as a setting spray, and to help dampen my brush when I want to intensify eyeshadow or highlight colors.

 

Just ’cause the Youtube gurus are using Marc Jacobs and YSL doesn’t mean drugstore make-up isn’t good. Drugstore make-up will still snatch your face, I promise.

Did I miss any other great products? Leave them in the comments!

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Unanswered Questions from Gilmore Girls: A Year in the Life (*SPOILER ALERT!*)

Gilmore Girls: A Year in the LIfe and the NUMEROUS unanswered questions that the Netflix revival left us with. / www.CandidlyKelseyBlog.com

Dear Amy Sherman-Palladino, I have a few questions for you regarding the revival of Gilmore Girls.

#1: How dare you. And #2: Why are you trying to hurt me?

I stayed up until 4am last night after family left to finish the series. I cried my way through Fall, as it felt like many things I had hoped for were finally happening. When the camera did that weird close-up on Rory’s manuscript title, I cried harder than I should have– though I would also blame the chocolate martini nightcaps we had before the family time wrapped up for the sheer volume of tears.

And then… oh boy. The ending. I was waiting for those famous last four words, only to be met with THAT?!

In all fairness, I get it. I get everything coming full circle for the main cast. Rory has fulfilled her destiny to finally become Lorelai. Jess has taken on the role of Luke, as the stoic, supportive cheerleader who is probably secretly still in love with Rory, and Logan will be the abesent father like Christopher. But man, those were just NOT the final four words I was expecting.

Aside from the crazy ending, the season left us with many unanswered questions. Instead of feeling like it wrapped up loose ends, the Gilmore Girls revival instead left with many more questions that will probably rock my soul for years to come. Here are a few of them:

Who wrote that nasty letter to Emily?

In therapy, Emily claimed Lorelai left a nasty letter on her bed, but Lorelai swore it wasn’t her; she even walked out of the appointment to make her point. Who actually wrote it? I’m wondering if it was Lorelai the First/Trix, Richard’s mother, and Emily confused them. Or maybe it was a malicious attempt by someone to hurt Emily and blame Lorelai? Not quite sure, but I am a little peeved they brought that up and didn’t give us closure.

Did Stars Hallow: The Musical ever open?

You can’t just throw a doozie at us like a Christian Borle and Sutton Foster musical and then not tell us how it ends! Do my emotions mean nothing?

What about Hep Alien?

It was 9 years later and they still rocked hard as hell in Lane and Zack’s living room. Do they have an album? Did Zack like that tour as guitarist for Vapor Rub? I thought they sounded great when they rehearsed at Lane and Zack’s house, so does that mean they are still an active band?

Was Emily actually dating Jack?

She seemed happy to have him leave her in Nantucket and go back to the city. I’m sure that was symbolic for starting to heal and move on after Richard’s death while she learns to be “alone”, but still. Were they together together? Or just finding comfort in another as people who have experienced awful loss?

Did Lorelai get to tell Michel she is expanding so he could stay at the Dragonfly Inn?

Lorelai already lost Sookie, so losing Michel was just salt in the wound for the orginal Inn Dream Team. Did she ever get to tell Michel that she was going to expand the Dragonfly? Would Michel leave his position at the W and stay to help expand? How can we never know?!

What language was Berta speaking?

Though I was banking on Emily going through many maids (as you could tell by my Gilmore Girls Netflix Revival Bingo Cards), I was really happy to see her find comfort and learn to be taken care of, and to take care of someone else beside Richard. It was great to see her start to relax and fall into herself as a person without having to keep up pretenses and live a life that had been outlined for her. Seeing her put on white Ked’s at the very end made me cry. But seriously– what the hell language was Berta speaking!?

(Also, bonus points for a great job for Rose Abdoo doing double-duty and starring as both Gypsy and Berta. She was great!)

What the HELL was the scene with Colin, Finn, Robert and Logan during that crazy night that they ended up in a tango club?

Literally so many questions. Where were they? What was with that super weird musical number? A friend told me it is incredibly simliar to a scene in Across the Universe, but having never seen that particular film, I was so lost this whole time. And wow, has Finn not aged a DAY?! Was that teary goodbye scene at the home in New Hampshire real, or were they all joking around like normal? Had she seen them recently, even though it seemed like her relationship with Logan was a big secret? I need some context here, guys.

What the hell is Rory’s problem?

Her entitlement finally reared it’s ugly head. She cites their story as a riches to rags story while pitching the book idea, but let’s be real: Rory never really knew “rags.” She spent her entire educational career being told she was special, and seems to be riding on that now that she’s into her 30s. I’m not saying it’s not okay to not have life figured out– because it totally is. But walking into an interview with nothing prepared like she did with SandySays seems very un-Rory. Get your head outta your ass, relax about the “lucky outfit” and try harder to prepare for an actual interview. Damn.

How old is Paul Anka?

The dog, I mean. He must be at least 10, if not much older, but he still looks relatively young. My dog is 3 and has so much white on her face that you’d think she’s on her death bed. Did Luke secretly swap out Paul Anka for a younger model to keep Lorelai from going crazy? Or is he actually a secret weird dog-hybrid like Loreali claimed in season 6 of the regular series?

Why were all the coffee cups empty?

It’s a show that thrives off coffee, yet all the cups were empty?! Were you trying to save money on the caffeine budget? If the budgt was really that tight, borrow some from craft services if it was really that much of a problem. But please have more respect for your audience in future shows and actually have some liquid in the cups next time.

WHO IS THE DAMN FATHER?

I have so many feelings about that ending. Not only did Rory go full circle and get herself knocked up a la Lorelai Gilmore, but she also managed to give us many options for who the father of her child could be. All signs point to Logan, in my opinion. Her very tense conversation with Christopher about how he felt about not being around to raise Rory makes me believe it’s Logan. But we also have Wookie Guy, and Paul the boyfriend to choose from. Regardless, I’m voting Logan.

 

Obviously I have many feelings about Gilmore Girls: A Year in the Life. I’m not sure if I’ll rewatch it due to the deep betrayal I am currently battling with, but I am looking forward to hearing your responses to the show’s reactions, Mrs. Sherman-Palladino. You got some ‘splainin’ to do. I need some closure for my Gilmore Girls.

Have you finished watching? What were your thoughts? If you have any insights to help me feel less like I waited 10 years to be let down, please share. #TeamLoganForever

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OFRA Cosmetics NEW “Beverly Hills” Baked Highlighter

OFRA Cosmetics Beverly Hills Baked Highlight is a gorgeous 5-color highlight that is SUPER pigmented, and gives a gorgeous shine to the cheeks! // www.CandidlyKelseyBlog.com
I’ve been on the highlighter struggle bus for some time now. I just can’t seem to find one that is affordable, and also shows up on my skin. I want that semi-blinding, you-can-see-my-cheeks-from-space kind of glow.  Though I do love the Mary Lou-Manizer from theBalm, it’s not my perfect match, and I’ve been on the hunt for better.

Those who know me know I swear by OFRA Cosmetics liquid lipsticks.  I posted about my favorite “Havana Nights” but have since acquired a few more colors.  So when OFRA announced their new baked highlighter with FIVE different shades… y’all.. I JUMPED on that (using MannyMUA’s discount code of “MANNYMUA for 30% off).

I finally got the gorgeous little beauty today and oooooooooh boy!

OFRA Cosmetics Beverly Hills Baked Highlight is a gorgeous 5-color highlight that is SUPER pigmented, and gives a gorgeous shine to the cheeks! // www.CandidlyKelseyBlog.comOFRA Cosmetics Beverly Hills Baked Highlight is a gorgeous 5-color highlight that is SUPER pigmented, and gives a gorgeous shine to the cheeks! // www.CandidlyKelseyBlog.com

The OFRA Cosmetics Beverly Hills Baked Highlighter is gorgeous in itself, but OFRA has stepped up the game overall.  The first thing I noticed was the packaging is gorgeous. Since my first OFRA order–which had just a sicker on the lipstick tube and was very underwhelming– they have stepped up their game. The box it came shipped in is adorable. It presents so nicely inside the box that I feel like I am truly having a lavish experience.

For the product itself, I will admit that some colors have more pigment than others. The peachy/rose pink, and true pink with gold flecks don’t have near the creaminess of the champagne, white, and gold.  The gold is the buttery-est of them all, as I’m sure you can tell in the swatch.

I applied a mix of the white and peachy-pink color to my cheeks and am very excited to use this for a full face of make-up. It has the perfect reflect without looking like a stripe of glitter on my cheek.  I can’t wait to have an excuse for a full-face so I can wear this bad boy out!

Overall, for the price tag and the fact that you get FIVE colors in this one, 6g compact, I’m a happy camper.

If you have been on the fence about getting it, looking for a new highlighter, or haven’t tried OFRA Cosmetics yet, I would give this my stamp of approval. Blind your enemies with your beautiful cheeks!

Got any other favorite highlighters I should know about? Let me know!

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