50 Fall Flavors Better Than Pumpkin Spice

Out of all the fall flavors, Pumpkin Spice is far too overrated. Here's a list of 50 other ideas... / www.CandidlyKelseyBlog.com

It’s Autumn. The best season of the entire year, and the best potential for delicious fall flavors to indulge in while you can cover up your foodie sins with endless layers of puffy clothing. And yet, this is the season that we celebrate the worst flavor known to mankind:

Pumpkin Spice.

In an entire world of culinary treats… how is this the damn fall flavor that consumes us from September-December? Literally thousands of flavors, and hundreds of which could easily compliment the background of a crisp fall breeze and leaves crunching underfoot… and we decide that friggin’ Pumpkin Spice is going to the the theme of the best season known to man?

I don’t think so.

And I’m not just saying this because I hate Pumpkin Spice almost as much as I hate Cheeto Jesus, but because in a world of endless tastes we are set to suffer with this one flavor profile to rule over the other delicious flavor profiles? Nah bro.

In the interest of spreading the good word of oh, I don’t know, any other flavor ever, I thought I’d share my top 50 other flavors that are better than Pumpkin Spice (in no particular order).

50 Fall Flavors Better Than Pumpkin Spice

  1. Chocolate
  2. Peanut Butter
  3. Chocolate AND Peanut Butter
  4. Mint
  5. Butterscotch
  6. Stale Chocolate
  7. S’mores
  8. Toffee Nut
  9. Apple
  10. Cinnamon
  11. Day-old apple cinnamon
  12. Caramel Apple
  13. Cranberry
  14. Orange
  15. Orange Spice
  16. Toasted Marshmallow– not to be confused with S’more, as this one contains NO chocolate
  17. White Chocolate
  18. Maple
  19. Salted Caramel
  20. Bad apple flavoring that really tastes like what a bad candle smells like, kind of waxy and sour
  21. A gym sock, probably
  22. Nutmeg
  23. Apple Pie
  24. Peach Pie
  25. Blueberry Pie
  26. Literally any kind of pie, like any pie at all, including spinach
  27. Caramel Corn
  28. Candy Corn (AKA literally the shittiest candy known to man)
  29. Turkey & Gravy
  30. Mashed Potato
  31. Green Bean Casserole
  32. Canned Cranberry Sauce
  33. Pink Gelatin Mold Your Grandma Makes But Nobody Eats
  34. Raspberry
  35. Toffee (minus the nut)
  36. Amaretto
  37. Wet Dog Smell
  38. Leftover Chinese Food
  39. Cat Treats
  40. Water
  41. Mint Chocolate Chip
  42. Cloves (or whatever that Christmas-smelly spice is)
  43. Apple Pie Spice
  44. Dirty Diaper
  45. Dollar Store Lip Gloss You Didn’t Mean to Eat But It Accidentally Got In Your Mouth And Now You’re Full of So Much Regret
  46. Cinnamon Toothpaste
  47. A day-old Skittle you found a the bottom of your purse
  48. Coconut
  49. Drinking Orange Juice After Brushing Your Teeth Taste
  50. Vanilla

And I could go on, but you get the picture. F*ck Pumpkin Spice.

 

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The Ultimate List of Facebook Groups For Make-Up Addicts

Do you ever feel like nobody in your life understands your love of makeup, and you have nobody to ask questions to, or share in excitement with? Welcome to Facebook Groups... // www.CandidlyKelseyBlog.com

If you’re ever feeling alone in something you like– don’t. Welcome to the world of Facebook Groups.

My beauty product obsession is only an interest I developed in the last few years. And until recently, I was pretty alone in that obsession, especially when I was living at home in Ohio. There are only so many times you can show your cat mom a swatch of a lipstick before she goes to her bedroom and locks the door.

So I turned to Facebook Groups to help curb my addiction for talking about products. To this day these groups are still the reason why I have yet to delete my personal Facebook. It’s not very often that you can get a group of women and men together who will all fan girl over a Sephora shipping notification with you, or help you guess the brand/shade of a lipstick that a celeb is photographed wearing. And all from the comfort of your own home!

Get a new lipstick and you’re feeling yourself? Post it to the group, and share with (literally) thousands of others.  Curious if a product is worth the hype? Ask the group and get answers immediately. I’m serious– there is even a woman who is SO talented at creating these gorgeous, intricate eyeshadow looks that there is currently a campaign going to get her to create a Youtube channel or to study make-up professionally. Outside of Alpha Delta Pi, never have I ever belonged to a group of such supportive people.

Obviously there are bound to be a ton of these groups, but I do have a few favorites.

Make Up Tips Connection

This was the first group I joined. It had a few thousand members when I found it, and now it’s got nearly 20,000. This is the perfect place for product recommendations, to ask questions, gossip over the beauty guru committee (like the Kat Von D & Jeffrey Star Cosmetics feud?! DAMN!), and more. People even post selfies with “How do I look?” or “Make-up looks banging today, just needed to share with people who understand!” and everyone is pretty much always very nice and encouraging. Even if you’re a make-up newbie, this is a great group to join.

ColourPop Fanatics

This group is dedicated purely to ColourPop Cosmetics (as you can tell from the title) so if you’re a ColourPop fan, I highly recommend joining. Not only is it the best place to hear about new releases, see swatches, examples of make-up looks using ColourPop products, etc, but it also has a really great community feel with people thanks to creator of the group hosting giveaways and other games.

Everything Makeup, Hair & More

This one is as large as Make Up Tips Connection, but has a much different feel. People “go live” a lot in this one and just hang out and chat while they do their make-up or hair. And as you can guess from the title, a lot more general beauty topics are discussed instead of just make-up. It’s less informational than the other two, and more of a community-based group.

Makeup Addicts

Though the other groups seem to have a wide variety of genders, this one has a wider variety of ages. It also seems to be a much more international place– with (I THINK, so sorry if I am just an ignorant American and am so wrong) a large proportions of Australians. A lot of the references that are made that I don’t always understand, but everyone is again super supportive. If you’re outside the U.S., I would check this one out. Everyone is really nice and helpful, and is great for reviews.

 

And those are just my favorite beauty Facebook Groups. If you’re looking for a great online forum, just search your interests on Facebook and I guarantee there is a group out there for you. This social media age is great (and a little creepy) for finding people who are interested in the same things you are.

Have any makeup Facebook Groups you love? Let me know. I’m already in six, what’s a few more?!

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ColourPop Lipstick Collection & Reviews

If you're looking for affordable and good quality lip products, look no further than a ColourPop lipstick. // www.CandidlyKelseyBlog.com

Hello, my name is Kelsey and I am in the midst of a ColourPop lipstick addiction.

(Hiiiiiiiii Kelsey.)

I know I shouldn’t even bother explaining ColourPop (thanks to the hype from the Kyle Jenner Lip Kits dupe drama— Google that ish if you don’t know what I’m talking about), but in case you don’t know what it is, or are my mother, then here we go.

ColourPop is an online beauty brand that sells crazy affordable make-up that is great quality.  They’re best known for their lip products and their Super Shock Shadows, but they also do highlights, blushes, bronzers, eye liners, brow products, sculpting sticks, and are coming out with new products everyday. (Edit: As of 8/3/2017 they even have CONCEALER!) And for how affordable they are, it’s not hard to get hooked.

In my case, it started out innocently enough. Two liquid lipsticks and an eyeshadow. And then there were three liquid lipsticks. Then there was a 20% off sale and then.. well.. You saw the picture above. I have developed a tiny collection.

And that isn’t even all of them. I have two Ultra Satin lips and a Lippie Stix missing from this that have gone AWOL.

Though ColourPop is known for their Ultra Mattes, I very much prefer the Ultra Satins.

ColourPop's "November" and "StingRAYE" are to die for. If you're looking for affordable and good quality lip products, look no further than a ColourPop lipstick. // www.CandidlyKelseyBlog.com

On the left is November, a ColourPop Ultra Satin Lip, next to StringRAYE, a ColourPop Ultra Matte Lip (that is a dupe for Jeffree Star’s Androgyny and is being discontinued on August 18th so RUN AND GO GET IT NOW!). The difference in the formula is very apparent. The Ultra Mattes tend to be much dryer and the Ultra Satins have a mousser texture that is much more comfortable to wear.

Some swatches of ColourPop Cosmetics liquid lipsticks. If you're looking for affordable and good quality lip products, look no further than a ColourPop lipstick. // www.CandidlyKelseyBlog.com

My go-to is Midi, an Ultra Matte, and November, the Ultra Satin.  I also love Alyssa, another Ultra Satin that is slightly more mauve-y. Both are great for everyday wear.

ColourPop’s Lippie Stix are also great. I find myself reaching for these when I’m looking for something I’m not worried about wearing off my lips or looking uneven throughout the day. I highly recommend them for an understated work-appropriate lip color.

A couple ColourPop Lippie Stix, each in a different finish. If you're looking for affordable and good quality lip products, look no further than a ColourPop lipstick. // www.CandidlyKelseyBlog.com

Pictured above is Creature, Cami, Frida and Aquarius, all of which have different finishes. Though the Frida, the Satin finish, is my go-to, I do love Aquarius over a pink lip liner, and am dyyyying for fall to hit so I can start wearing Creature.  Cami, the Matte X finish, is a beautiful color, but because it is so matte, I have to prep with an exfoliant and lip balm before I wear it.  I’m hoping Creature, a regular Matte finish, will be more comfortable.An example of each of the finishes of ColourPop Lippie Stix. If you're looking for affordable and good quality lip products, look no further than a ColourPop lipstick. // www.CandidlyKelseyBlog.com

Despite my undying love for the ColourPop lipstick, I do have one complaint. The logo on the packaging rubs off quite easily– as you can see in the first picture.

I used to think people that got hung up on packaging were crazy… until now. I am the kind of person that gets excited over packaging. When did that happen?

I get a weird thrill out of seeing each ColourPop lipstick in a row, all nice and neat.  Maybe it’s because I clearly have a thing for the same color family– (they are all DIFFERENT when you put them on the lips! I promise!)– but there is something about seeing all of them lined up, in color order, showing off their pristine ColourPop logos that gives me a warm fuzzy feeling. I’m assuming this is how men feel when a fancy car engine revs.

HOWEVER. The liquid branding rubs off SO easily– as you can tell in the picture above. I know I shouldn’t gripe about a $6.00 lipstick, but having the logo rub off so quickly kind of ruins the whole warm-fuzzy-feeling thing. “Midi” took an all day trip in my purse and when I pulled her out to put her away at night, the logo was gone!  Disappointing, as she is one of my favorites.

Aside from that, I’m a happy camper.

If you’ve never tried a ColourPop lipstick, I recommend taking a look around the website. First time customers can get a $5.00 off coupon, which basically means a free lipstick. And who doesn’t want a free lipstick?

Are you a ColourPop junkie as well? Tell me what you have/what I need to get in the future. Or, if you have other lipstick brands I should try, let me know in the comments!

**It wasn’t until the end of this that I realized I was referring to my lippies as “she” but whatever. Dudes can call their cars by the female pronoun, then I can call my make-up “her.”

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10 Reasons Why I’m A Garbage Person

It's fine to be a Garbage Person... to an extent. And I'm afraid I may have gone past that acceptable range... // CandidlyKelseyBlog.com

Hello, my name is Kelsey and I am a Garbage Person.

What is a Garbage Person, you ask? Oh, you didn’t ask at all? That’s fine because I’m still going to tell you.

Being a Garbage Person is a way of life. It’s being so lazy in certain aspects of life that you are ashamed to admit your laziness out loud. It’s doing certain things with so little effort that you are almost impressed with yourself. Garbage People are not exactly gross, unmotivated, or bad people. But we can be sometimes… and we’re okay with it. #GarbagePersonForLife

However, my Garbage-ness is starting to overtake my regular self. And I feel like I am falling into a downward spiral and need to pull myself out of it or else I face a very trashy future.

To start the healing process it seems as if admitting my Garbage-ness is the first step. But, as I’m afraid I may lose some of my friends if I were to truly admit all of my Garbage ways, I thought I’d just round up the highlights.

10 Reasons I’m A Garbage Person

  1. In the past week I have sprayed air freshener from the work restrooms on myself because I forgot perfume that morning and was worried that I might smell. So instead I smell like “fresh linen.”
  2. I really wanted a milkshake to drown my sorrows in while I worked on job applications but I didn’t have a blender, so I let the ice-cream melt on the counter so I could sip it instead.
  3. Without finishing my current coffee I have bought another coffee in anticipation of needing it. Two coffees. I even had someone commemorate it with a picture.
  4. Every single one of my “bright spots” (AKA a happy thing in our lives) at our weekly staff meeting at work has been related to food. If it’s not then I get called out for it. My brand at work is “food.”
  5. I recently tried to throw my garbage away but the garbage chute was full so I just turned around brought the garbage back into my apartment. Seriously. Actual Garbage Person. The dumpster felt too far. I may or may not live on the second floor, but it still felt too far.
  6. On more than one occasion I have used lipstick as blush when I couldn’t find my blush.
  7. I have faked receiving a phone call to get out of a conversation at least twice in the last month. One of those times was today. I’m not sorry.
  8. Last week I set up my mat to do yoga and then instead laid on the mat for 45 minutes watching baking videos on my phone instead of actually doing yoga. And then left the mat on the floor because “my cat likes to lay on it.”
  9. Once, when my leggings ripped, instead of just not wearing them I used duck-tape on the inside of the legging to cover the hole until I went to get new ones. I even drew on the exposed tape with a black marker to help it blend in. I also did this many, many, many times, and thought it was hilarious.
  10. After catering shifts, instead of taking a regular shower, I sit down in my tub with my shower on when I wash my hair. It takes forever and totally defeats the purpose of a shower. But my legs are usually throbbing so I refuse to apologize for this.

And those are just the things that I feel comfortable admitting. I’m hoping that by stating that I have a problem I can start to heal from my trashy tendencies. Recognizing the problem is the first step, right?

Thank you all for your kind thoughts as I try to work through this rough point in my life.

Do you have Garbage-like tendencies? What are they? I’d love to hear them so I can start to hate myself less. Leave them in the comments!

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How to Find a Therapist

Finding a therapist or counselor to speak with can be incredibly overwhelming. Let's talk about how to make the process easier // www.CandidlyKelseyBlog.com

At beginning of the month I wrote about the unexpected benefits of therapy. Now, let’s talk now about how to find a therapist. Though the process can seem SUPER overwhelming, don’t get discouraged. It was definitely easier than finding a boyfriend, if that makes anyone feel better!

I took two approaches to find a therapist, but only really found success with the second one. As the first approach was suggested to me by my doctor, I thought I’d include it anyway for good measure.

BUT, before you go a-searchin’, there are some things you need to do:

Decide what are important qualifications for you.  For example, my qualifications were pretty simple. As I don’t have a car, location was a major key for me.  I wanted someone close to where I lived so it didn’t make going to see them that much harder.  I also knew I wanted a woman, someone who specialized in anxiety, and who was relatively young. Another important factor was needing them to be able to work with a sliding pay scale, as the fate of my insurance coverage would be fluctuating in the future.

When looking for someone, here are a few helpful things to keep in mind:

  • Location
  • Specialty/Experience in specific mental ailments (ie: depression, anxiety, sexuality, trauma, etc.)
  • Gender
  • Insurance/pay schedule
  • Age
  • Appointment availability
  • Style or theory of counseling, ie- Are you a big jokester? Do you want someone with a sense of humor? An optimist? Do you want someone to take you very seriously? These types of styles are important, as they’ll affect your comfort level and ability to open up to them.
  • TYPE of therapist– there are many types of counselors, and many different certifications of what we probably all lump together as “psychologists”.  Though most will help with the average talk-therapy, you may want someone who has a different specialty. Don’t hesitate to do a little research if you are unsure of exactly what you are looking for.

Check your insurance.  I checked mine online, but you can also just call your provider and ask about your coverage. Thankfully, my current health insurance covers mental health very well, so that was a huge load off my mind.  If you are without insurance, or don’t have insurance that covers mental health, make sure you take that into account when looking for someone.  I knew that I will be switching jobs in August/September, or possibly even going without a job for a short period of time this fall, so having someone who accepted many insurances, or worked on a sliding pay scale (relative to your income!) if I lost insurance was a huge bonus. Your insurance may have certain restrictions, or not cover mental health care at all, so be sure to know this before looking for people!

Approach #1: Referral from my Primary Care Physician

My general doctor issued me a referral, and gave me a list of therapists that were in-network with my primary care office.  I sorted them by location, then by gender, and started calling places that were recommended.  Honestly, I got a lot of not-so-nice responses from some places, some crazy long wait times for my first appointment, and some really staggering prices for sessions that scared me off immediately.  I think I made about six calls before I gave up and decided the process was hopeless. This was not exactly the most encouraging way to do it, in my opinion.

Plus, making me CALL THEM was not an ideal situation— anyone else out there with anxiety can probably agree with me on that one.

Approach #2: Using Psychology Today.Com

A friend who is in the mental health field suggested I use the “Find A Therapist” feature on  PsychgologyToday.com. Not only could I plug in exactly what my specifications were, like creating a search filter, but it had an EMAIL option. I picked four counselors that met my specifications, and sent them all an email:

Hello, my name is Kelsey and I am looking for a therapist to help with anxiety.  Are you accepting new patients? I have a referral from my primary care physician if you need it, and Cigna health insurance. I’d love to book a preliminary appointment if you have any openings. Thanks!

I received 2 responses from therapists with open availability, and two that were not accepting patients at that time. I booked a free consultation the same week with one, and told the other I would get back to her if I wanted to book an appointment.

Why I Chose My Therapist:

Now that I found someone to talk to, I had to decide if I thought she was the right person for me.

After our 1-hour consultation, I knew I wanted to keep seeing her because I immediately felt very comfortable and welcomed by her. It was a gut-feeling thing more than anything else. She made me feel as relaxed as I possibly could in that situation, but did it without making me feel pressured to feel relaxed.

After two more sessions, I knew I had made the right choice and wanted to keep seeing her. She was very good at taking the lead of a conversation when I needed her too, or letting me control the session when I wanted to. The conversation never lulled, and every single moment felt productive– which was huge to me. It also helped greatly that she laughed at my stupid jokes, which happened a lot because I make bad jokes when I’m uncomfortable.

Finding the right fit will feel different for everyone, so my biggest piece of advice is simple: just go with your gut. If it doesn’t feel right, then try someone else. And there is no shame in telling someone you try out that it doesn’t feel like a good fit– if they are a professional, they will completely understand! It may take time, but it is soooo worth it in the end to have someone you can speak candidly.

Any questions? Do you see a therapist yourself and have other tips to offer about finding one? Put your recommendations in the comments!

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